For several weeks now I’ve been thinking about two short phrases that should be used more often by EVERYONE. These two phrases have the ability to change hearts and minds. Today, while I was reading this post by author/speaker/blogger, Jon Acuff, he actually wrote about one of those phrases so I figured now is as good a time as any to write my post on this topic as well.

The phrase Jon Acuff was referring to was, “I was wrong.” Jon wrote, “Great leaders know they will make mistakes and when they do, they’re not afraid to say those
three important words: I was wrong.”

I believe it is particularly important for great leaders to be able to say those three words. Oddly enough, admitting when you are wrong allows people to trust you more. If you become the kind of person who will never admit when you are wrong, it actually leads people to trust you less and even go back and raise question on past circumstances. People will begin to wonder if you’ve covered up failure in the past just to save face.

People desire truth. People desire honesty. Learn to admit when you are wrong. Not only will it allow people to trust you more, but it will do great things for your own heart. It will give you room to become humble. It will give you room to grow and become better.

I mentioned there were two phrases people should learn to say.

The other one is even more important if you ask me. This phrase has an even greater ability to change hearts and deepen relationships. The phrase I’m talking about is, “I’m sorry.” Although, keep in mind this phrase MUST be used genuinely in order to take proper effect. An honest, genuine, heartfelt apology allows people to forgive you and to forgive themselves. Apologies allow people to set aside their differences, reconcile the issues they might be struggling over and to move forward.

I’ve often found in my life when I’m able to genuinely apologize for my wrongdoings (whether it’s in confession or to the person I’ve hurt) a simple apology allows our relationship to mend and grow. To grow. That part is important. Apologies allow existing relationships to flourish and deepen. A greater bond is formed and there is often an open admittance neither party is perfect. When you are able to let your guard down and admit you are not perfect, you are able to allow so much love into your heart.

Don’t believe me?

I challenge you to give either phrase a try. If not for the other person, then do it for yourself. Your heart is begging for it.

“I was wrong.”

“I’m sorry.”

Definite game-changers.